I love bits – but being his career has broken me

A son who takes care of his father 24-hours a day, says he has reached “braking point” and is calling for more mental health assistance for those who take care of their loved ones.

Bernard Mendza, 82, Developed Dementia Three years ago and her son Danny has ever taken care of at home.

Graceford, 54 -year -old Danny Mendoza of Verexum said he loved his father “from Bits” but “living like a hermet” and isolation made him feel suicidal.

The Welsh government said that unpaid carers played an important role and committed to ensure that support was available.

Danny has been depressed for 20 years, but her condition worsened after her father became the only carer.

“It was a huge impact on my mental health,” he said.

“I have never been so depressed in my life. It reached the point where I was considering suicide in a way.

“It’s at the point I knew that I was not well.”

After talking to his doctor, Danny was kept in contact with social services the next day, who arranged for his father to spend six weeks in a care house for a care.

He said that he was left “riding with guilt” by agreeing to keep his father in temporary care, but “only that you can do before breaking up, and this is no use for me or my father”.

He said that more support should have been provided before reaching the “braking point”.

He said, “I should have reached earlier, but still I still feel that there should be something that can be ensured that the family care does not reach the situation where they are in burnouts or in a very dark place like themselves,” he said.

For the past few years, Danny has been taking a break in a week for four hours, while her father goes to a day’s center.

He said that the loneliness of being the only carer felt him that he had “lost contact with the real world”.

Danny, who was forced to quit his job three years ago, said the system for unpaid care was “completely broken” and criticized the £ 328-month career’s allowance, saying he found that he got.

“I am sorry, but it’s an insult. I am about to take care of 24/7. Yes, he is my father and I love him with bits, but I am going to take care of them and the money should reflect at least minimum wages. You are still alive. It’s not right.”

76 -year -old Gill Stafford is the only careful for her son Gareth as her husband died 10 years ago.

The 38 -year -old Gareth has cerebral palsy and cannot walk or talk, but plays a form of Bokia – bowl to Wales.

Gill to Abarel, Convi said that the carers “felt that we are sometimes invisible”.

“I am going to the past through the window of Gareth to the past, and some of them have given him a wave, which is good,” he said.

“You are just going out and saying ‘Can you come in?”

Gill said Gareth received some social care, allowing him to exit for six hours once a week.

He said that a career also took Gareth to Bokia for half a day, but she often goes with him so that “I am chatting with someone”.

When carers are on leave, or are not available, he said: “You can go weeks without looking at anyone, especially on Christmas.”

1,217 New figures of charity careers Wales based on a survey of current or pre -carers, he suggested that 38% of unpaid carers in Wales fought mentally, while 60% were overwhelmed.

Among those who sought support from social care services, 57% said that services were not available when they were needed.

Careful said that census data suggested that 310,000 were unpaid carer in Wales, which they estimate to be worth £ 10bn when paid.

Charity head Rob Simkins stated that the findings should “ring the alarm bell in Wales,” and warned parts of the NHS that they would not “just work” without unpaid carers.

He said that he was responsible for keeping a large number of people out of the hospital, and without them, “whatever we have done and worked to get people out of the hospitals in the houses, they are completely separated”.

He said: “This report is the latest in a long queue of reports exposing unpaid carers and failures facing failures in Wales, which has taken to this point,” he said.

“Now we need to see immediate action and leadership from the Welsh government to address these issues as the highest priority. Nothing less is acceptable only.”

The Welsh government said that it was committed to “it continues to be available to ensure”.

It said that it had allocated £ 42 million to support unpaid carers since 2022, “We continue to work closely with health boards and local authorities to improve services for carers, including improvement in services for carers.”

The UK government said that it is increasing the boundary of the career’s allowance and providing additional funds to the local authorities.

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